Smiling is the most effective flirting tool. Psychologists and body language gurus agree that one of the most important things you can do to make yourself more attractive (and approachable) is to smile.

Just a normal smile: “ I am glad to be here kind of smile. Smiling is recognised worldwide as a sign of friendliness.

Try not to pretend to be something or someone you are not. The target will soon know that you have been pretending should this be the case.

Imagine also having to keep up this pretence over several dates should he not realise that you have been pretending.

Once conversation has started between you and your flirting target, use these tips to deepen the attraction. First, smile and maintain eye contact as they are speaking, and focus all of your attention on what they are saying. There is rarely anyone more attractive than someone who finds you utterly fascinating.

Other key moves, the nod and the head tilt-signal you're listening to what the other person has to say. Smiling and laughing are crucial here - it's the quickest, easiest way to put another person at ease and make a connection.

Finally, another effective flirting technique is low-level touching such as touching the hand or arm, and brushing the shoulder or elbow.

People mirror each other's body language when they are attracted to the other with similar gestures, voice, pitch and so on.

Subtly mimicking your flirting target's behaviour. If he leans forward, you lean forward. If he scratches his head, you scratch your head. If you are mirroring someone's behaviour, they'll begin to feel as though the two of you are connected and on the “same wavelength.”

How to tell if a guy is flirting with you? Again, the signs above are fantastic indicators, but men tend to take things a little further by demonstrating their social status with moves that can include, flashing cash and talking about their occupations and (you guessed it) cars.

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