The key is to look approachable and friendly.

1) Eye Contact
Maintain eye contact with the person you're flirting with for at least seven seconds, next smile and look away. Give that guy a smouldering look, and then look away. Repeat this at least twice in a ten-minute period.

Why bother? So your target knows that you are flirting with him, and eye contact is a sign of interest.

2) Smiling
Smiling is the most effective flirting tool. Psychologists and body language gurus agree that one of the most important things you can do to make yourself more attractive (and approachable) is to smile.

Just a normal smile: “ I am glad to be here kind of smile. Smiling is recognised worldwide as a sign of friendliness.

3) Be Yourself
Try not to pretend to be something or someone you are not. The target will soon know that you have been pretending should this be the case. Imagine also having to keep up this pretence over several dates should he not realise that you have been pretending.

4) Focus, Focus
Once conversation has started between you and your flirting target, use these tips to deepen the attraction. First, smile and maintain eye contact as they are speaking, and focus all of your attention on what they are saying. There is rarely anyone more attractive than someone who finds you utterly fascinating.

Other key moves, the nod and the head tilt-signal you're listening to what the other person has to say. Smiling and laughing are crucial here - it's the quickest, easiest way to put another person at ease and make a connection. Finally, another effective flirting technique is low-level touching such as touching the hand or arm, and brushing the shoulder or elbow.

5) Neck Exposure
One of the best winning flirting tips is neck exposure. You can do this with a head tilt to one side, the classic hair flip, or the over-the-shoulder glance - the asymmetrical position attracts attention, exposes your neck, and gives you the opportunity to make eye contact. The over-the-shoulder look is great as it is sexy and it says to your target that he is worth a second look.

6) Groom
We do groom ourselves without knowing it when we're attracted to someone, by smoothing down our hair or clothes, or checking our lipstick. Try to combine a grooming gesture with a smile. Another trick? Toss your hair to one side. This classic move is a double whammy that combines grooming with a flash of neck. What else can we say?

7) Lovely Lips
Subconsciously both genders are attracted to red, moist lips because they signal youth, sex and fertility. Some women prefer not to wear red lipstick. So then wear a maroon one. This will not only give your lips a youthful colour, but also makes your smile more visible and your teeth whiter. Shiny lip-gloss can also make your lips look moist and kissable.

8)Cross Your Legs
Crossing and uncrossing your legs is another great flirting tip, especially if you're wearing high heels. The act of crossing your legs is quite seductive to men, and it makes them desire to see more.

9) Friendly Feet

It is best some experts say to stand with feet no farther than 6 inches apart. It renders you more approachable.

10) Mimic
People mirror each other's body language when they are attracted to the other with similar gestures, voice, pitch and so on. Subtly mimicking your flirting target's behaviour. If he leans forward, you lean forward. If he scratches his head, you scratch your head. If you are mirroring someone's behaviour, they'll begin to feel as though the two of you are connected and on the “same wavelength.”

How to tell if a guy is flirting with you? Again, the signs above are fantastic indicators, but men tend to take things a little further by demonstrating their social status with moves that can include, flashing cash and talking about their occupations and (you guessed it) cars.

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